Monday, October 11, 2010

Top Five Regrets of the Dying - By Bronnie Ware Platinum Quality Author

" For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die.
Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.

People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality.  I learned never to underestimate someone's capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance.  

Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people have had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn't work so hard.

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners.

All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level.

 Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved.

Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill nd weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks,love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content.
When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.

When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying. "

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life.
  • Choose consciously,
  • choose wisely,
  • choose honestly
Choose happiness.

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Tamilnet is driving good Tamils nuts !

Disclaimer !!

Let's see the stats - though there is a slight increase for he past 3 months, since recent, the traffic generated has reduced - meaning people are loosing interest in the lies spread by this false web site !

Let's compare it with credible news web sites as CNN and BBC. Basically, Taminut is not even in the picture... Again proves that this lie has no credibility !!!

Let's look at the audience !!
No children - Impotent
No education - Stupid fools
24-34 - Easily Mislead

And most diverted traffic to the site are those who searched for other Tamil related information as English to tamil dictionary, Tamil dictionary, learn tamil etc... meaning less are interested in getting false information from this lie hole !!

Traffic ranks in other countries - let's not talk about it - even in Sri Lanka and India the ranks are very low. Meaning, the largest Tamil populations are not interested in getting lies as information - Malysia, Thailand and Indonesia are not even in the picture though there is a considerable Tamil population in these countries. 


Friday, August 27, 2010

A reply to A. Savage

a.savage Says:
August 26th, 2010 at 8:00 pm

Thamilan, dear friend,

i ask your song, Tell me of the wind on which you wander !

i will listen to the wind to bring your voice again.


My dear friend, I tell you my song
Please lend an Ear as in a norm
I tell you about the winds that were so strong
and how it has changed, in the way we wanted, for so long.

The stormy winds now have settled and things are calm
While Storm creators apply on their bodies Balm
Gone are the days where the winds were rough 
At sea or on land where we were, and that was tough

Long gone are the days where those storms surrounded us with fear
Along has come the days, with Winds of change that murmur to our ears
That the peace and prosperity is forever to stay here
No Terror, No guns nor bombs and things are all Clear

No more the children fear of getting caught in a storms
To deprive their childhood with guns in their Arms
Now they play and also have books in their Palms
Staring in to the future with hope, awaiting each day that Dawns

Indeed the winds have changed and it has changed for good
Now we live in peace while filling our mouths with food
Subtle winds of joy comes knocking on door-wood
So,for those who wants storms I would say "Get a Life Dude"